Membership

Individual accounts are welcome from all pervs over the age of 18 regardless of orientation, sex, gender, race, sexuality, disability, scene experience, shoe size or pretty much any other 'ism. Pretty much the only thing we won't tolerate is intolerance toward other menbers, especially on any of these grounds.

Although we prefer people to join in their own right, couples are welcome to join with a shared account. However, if you do this, it is preferred you identify who is posting from the account to help prevent confusion.

One account per member. There is no honest reason for any member to have multiple active accounts, pretending to be 2 or more different identities. Any members found to be faking accounts in this way will be deleted, as will ALL of their accounts, and details will be circulated to local munches, sites, fetlife etc.

Memberships in the name of munches and clubs are not allowed. While Tension actively supports all local munches and scene events wherever possible, posts should be made by and responded to a named individual who takes responsibility for the post.

Fet related businesses may join too, and promote their business through Tension IF there is a mutual benefit to our members. While we'd love to see your new range of floggers or corsetry, joining purely to spam is not acceptable. Discounts for Tension members always goes down well too...

Try to be respectful of other members' opinions, even if they differ from yours. The scene is vast and varied, and not everyone has the same experiences and understandings, and right and wrong are very subjective.

Don't use members' life names on the site unless they have used it themselves, or they have in some other way indicated that they don't mind it being used in a public forum. Likewise, be aware that the Tension forums are viewable by the general public. Don't post anything about yourself you don't want in the public domain, and extend the same courtesy to fellow members.

Don't post the same thread over and over. If noone has read it first time, they'll not suddenly find the identical message enthralling elsewhere on the board. In the same light, don't shamelessly bump threads without something new to contribute to it. Breathing new life into old threads is always welcome. Typing the four letters B U M P is basically quite naff.

No 'single sub looking for a Dom' type posts. Tension is not that kind of site. You are free to create a personal ad within your profile, and tell us you've created it in the the last thing I changed on my profile thread. Threads of the nature of 'sad loner looking for a kinky fuck' will be left, and our entire community will publicly humiliate and vilify you over it, for that is the law.

Keep it legal. Any discussions on sex with minors will have IP addresses logged and reported to the appropriate authorities without warning. We are fully aware that most of us had our first encounters early in life. Should that come up- say in a 'when did you first...', when I was very young will be probably be accepted. When she was a little girl will not.

If you are posting on behalf of a group, munch, event etc, say so in your post. For example "Room101, on behalf of The Tension Team".

Feel free to make a post about an event that catches your eye, but if you're not posting in an official capacity, please make that clear.

Tension does not speak officially on any event other than Tension. We try to keep you informed, and we hope the event organisers keep you informed through our pages too, but Tension cannot be held responsible for the information posted.

The personal message system is primarily for scene friends to stay in touch. It is not provided for trawlers looking to get their rocks off. We have a longstanding policy that involves us protecting our members both in the physical world and here in the cyber realms. The girls pretty much all welcome this policy, and feel much safer on the scene as a consequence. Our scene is based very much on mutual trust and respect, and you are very unlikely to get anything other than a polite rebuttal if randomly PMing members, and as it is reported to us mods gets you off to a bad start.

Don't PM people you don't know seeking play, a Mistress or whatever unless you have been invited to personally, there was a sitewide invite generally, or they have a personal ad on their profile and you believe you meet the criteria.

Socials, Munches, Tension, Dungeon, Quiz night... there are no shortages of opportunities to meet sceners in the flesh. If you are too busy to make time to make just one of those or other many events, then you're probably too busy for this lifestyle too.

While I know we all love to wish our friends all the best on their birthdays, can we please ensure we only do it for those who show up in the list on the front of the page.

There are numerous reasons why people do not want their birthday listed, often very personal; some are keeping as low key as possible, while others have chosen to move on from the scene entirely. Although we love them and wish them all the best on their birthday and every other day, we must also respect their choice not to do that publicly.

For those yet to work out how you get your name in the coming birthdays box on the homepage, you need to fill in the 'my birthday' field on your profile. We do not automatically use your date of birth from registration so you maintain the option of privacy.